This has been an issue for quite a long time and now it's preventing me from drawing near to my new accomplice 

I am a 35-year-old androgynous lady who has never had penetrative sex with a man. Quite a while back I endeavored it, however we surrendered when it didn't work. I assumed it was on the grounds that I wasn't sufficiently casual, however from that point forward I have attempted entrance with vibrators when completely casual and greased up and they won't go in, and it is unbelievably difficult. I've as of late met a beautiful man with whom I'd jump at the chance to be cozy, however I have abstained from getting excessively close along these lines.

There may be a physiological or anatomical purpose behind this, so it is basic that you counsel a specialist. It is conceivable that you may require a technique that would expel a thick hymen or right whatever physical component might forestall entrance.

There is a condition known as vaginismus where entrance is made unimaginable because of a solid fit. Vaginismus is basically a psychosexual issue that can create after various excruciating penetrative endeavors (it is the body's method for declining further agony) and this may be a piece of your concern. However, since you say you have additionally been not able get a vibrator when completely casual and greased up, my figure is that your issue is really physiological.


Try not to postpone in looking for help for this, despite the fact that it would be splendidly sensible to take part in "outercourse" (non-penetrative suggestive play) with your new accomplice until the point when you are prepared for intercourse – which may require significant investment. You know well how your body functions as far as accomplishing climax, and should manage your accomplice in satisfying you in your typical way notwithstanding when entrance winds up conceivable. Most ladies get the dominant part of their peak prompting joy from clitoral incitement, so don't anticipate that entrance alone will prompt climax; it presumably won't.